We live in a small town in Washington State and have been happily married for 11 years. We have a five year old son through IVF and just love being parents! We are very excited to be adding a new little one to our family! Not only are we excited to be adding a baby to our family, but our son is overjoyed to become a big brother.
We own our own businesses, which allows Nathan a flexible work schedule with time for lots of extra family meals and short bursts of play throughout the day. It also allows Randi to be able to be a stay at home mother to our son, which she is very excited to be able to continue to do with the new little one.
We are Christian and as a family we attend church together. We are involved in our church, Nathan plays the keyboard, Randi helps run the PowerPoint and our son helps unlock the doors, gather the offering and put out food for fellowship. Our son has made good friends there. It is a small church so his friends are mostly adults, which has been very good for his social skills. He can interact with adults other than his parents.
At home, we try to model a loving relationship for our son. We share lots of activities, from cooking and chores, to recreation time. Our son sees us sharing fun times, work tasks, family discussions, and planning events. He participates as much as possible.
Most of all we enjoy spending family time together. We enjoy cooking as a family, playing games, doing puzzles, playing music, and doing crafts. However, we also have fun just doing chores inside or outside, and just having conversations. Although, we prefer spending most of our time together as a family, we both have good social lives. Randi has a mom’s groups that she participates in several times a week. Nathan plays music around the local area. We both participate in church activities as well.
We believe that everything we do for our son is from love, and for the most part what is effective in good behavior is encouragement, options, redirection, structure and attention. We encourage our son to be polite, respectful, understanding, and kind. 99% of the time, his behavior is very appropriate. Our son can earn prizes and stickers for chores and other actions. We do not overly structure our time. We try to leave lots of room, especially in the evenings where things are not too structured.
We like our house to be fun and creative. There is usually music playing, craft projects around the house, blanket forts, homemade ships and castles, and books everywhere.
We actively practice goal setting, positive thinking, and self-improvement. Our family discusses goals and experiences each day, and our son participates. On our way to school we talk about what activities he will choose, which snacks he can and can’t have, who he looks forward to seeing, and what he wants to say to his teacher. On the way home, we talk about what he did, who he talked to, what he learned, and what works he did. At dinner we discuss what we are thankful for. After our son goes to bed, we keep daily journals of goals and thankfulnesses. We believe in hard work but also being open to good things that come naturally.
As you see, most of our activities revolve around raising our son in a positive , loving environment.